Dear Single Mom…

Dear Sweet Beloved Single Mom,

I know it feels sometimes like you are the only one out there in your current situation, but you aren’t. There are many women in similar situations as yours right now, whatever and wherever that is. They are women with similar hopes and shattered dreams, similar fears, and similar hurts. Yes, the reason for those hurts may be different, but hurt is hurt… and pain is pain. You are definitely not alone.

I know it seems like you aren’t seen, but you are. There is a Sovereign King who rules over the entire world, and yet knows how many hairs are on that beautiful head of yours. He hears each frustrated plea you pray and each tear you cry in solitude, and sees each act of love and sacrifice you show to your children when you are exhausted and would rather curl up in bed and watch some mindless TV. He longs to talk to you, this Abba Father of yours – to have you open His Word and to fully embrace the relationship that being a dearly beloved daughter of His means.  To give you hope.

I know you feel like you may not be able to make it today, but you can. You have the ability to live in the supernatural strength that your Heavenly Father offers with capabilities that will astound you. He makes you strong and able to defeat any enemy that may threaten to defeat you. He makes you brave and able to push past your fears, take risks, and dream of a brighter future.

So stand up strong today, dear sister. Reach out and embrace His love and fully bask in His promises. You aren’t alone. You are seen. And you can make it. But it’s only in your weakness that you can truly reach out to discover your strength – because when you are weak, He is strong.

Lovingly,

Your fellow sister who is right where you are & who also needs these reminders…




(Listen especially to the bridge in the middle – I can’t get enough of it!) 🙂
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When grief changes your “yes”

It’s amazing how much grief changes a perspective on life.  Yes, a greater focus on eternity and Kingdom living is a given, but other things are also affected – like the way I choose to parent my children. 
B and I always kind of had it in our heads that we would let H get her ears pierced when she turned 10.  Yes, I know we were a bit “old school” and that even baby girls get their ears pierced.   But for me, as I was growing up, that act was a right of passage – a turning point that proved I was responsible enough to take care of myself and my earrings.  So I kept the same perspective for my daughter.   
She never really cared about it until recently.   But then she started to bring it up in conversation.  She told me that almost all of the girls she knew that were around her age already had their ears pierced.  She told me that she was going to work hard at continuing to be responsible and take care of her things, so that she could be sure to get hers pierced in a year.
And I caved.  You see, I know my precious little girl already feels like she often doesn’t fit in now because most of her friends have their daddy around.  It hurts my heart that she doesn’t, but I can’t do anything about that.  But not having her ears pierced?  That’s trivial.  There is no real reason that matters as to why she shouldn’t.  And besides, she’s had to grow up a lot more in the last year and be faced with things that a lot of girls her age haven’t had to deal with yet.  So off we went, on a girls’ afternoon together the day before her 9thbirthday, and a part of that involved the infamous ear piercing… and resulted in one happy girl.
I want to be a “yes” mom.  Now obviously, there are plenty of times that I need to tell my children “no.”  But there are also plenty of times that I think, as moms, we say “no” when it would really be ok to say “yes.”  So I try to ask myself these three questions:

     1.  Is it harmful?  My job is to protect my children in the best way I can.  They will be hurt in this world, but I will do the best job I can to protect them from hurt that could be avoided.  This is especially true while they are little. 

     2. Is it appropriate?  I must consider whether it’s something age appropriate and also appropriate for a follower of Christ.  This is usually the area that takes the most consideration.  I want to protect their innocence, and teach them that their actions have consequences. 
     3. Is he/she mature enough to handle this responsibility?  There have been times when I’ve had to say “no” to activities because my kids weren’t ready for the challenge or responsibility that was required.  There have also been times when I have to say “wait” because I know they will be ready, but aren’t quite there yet. 
After experiencing grief, it’s even more important that I think through these questions, because my tendency could be to give in to my kids simply due to my sorrow for what they have had to endure.  But grief also has a way of making you realize how many things you should say “yes” to, because life is short and tomorrow is never guaranteed.  That goes for myself, and it goes for my parenting. There are so many things that I’ve said “no” to in the past that seem so trivial now.  Who cares if their outfit doesn’t match or they wear jeans when it’s 95 degrees outside?  Who cares if they stay up a little later because they want to finish that exciting book?  Who cares if the dishes don’t get done because we chose to ride our bikes to a park after dinner and stay there to watch the sun set?
Life is sacred.  It’s a gift we’ve been given by the Father, and I, for one, want to cherish it. 
So I choose to say “yes” whenever I can – to God, to myself, and to my children. 

Yes. 

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Thank you, Dr. Brantly…

Ever since Dr. Kent Brantly was introduced to the world due to his contraction of the ebola virus, I’ve been following his story.  Perhaps it’s because I don’t hear often of people still in existence who choose to abandon everything they hold dear, to follow God’s call to a remote part of the earth where people who are so loved by their Creator die due to a lack of clean water and good medical care.  … {…Read More}

What We’re Reading…9-4-14

I love to talk books – and with a new school year starting up, I’ve got all sorts of reads in my pile and on my wish list for both myself and with the kids!   I generally only read fiction during the summer, but there are always a few exceptions. 😉 Here are the books we are currently reading.  I usually have at least one Kindle read and one actual book going on at … {…Read More}

And so it begins…

It’s been a good summer… but a long one. I love my littles dearly, but summer now means I have to be intentional about having adult conversations. I think the combination of the heat, the length, and just a lot of overall hard going on all around us – well, it’s had me quiet and a bit discouraged.  This world can do that, I’ve learned, and I think that’s ok.  Those hardships help us to … {…Read More}